Men are very resistant in sharing with their woman if they are having any hesitation about having sex, so it's kind of our job to read their minds or at least prepare a good defense for when the time approaches. Here are a few things I've learned along the way that seem to affect men the most and make them the most nervous in bed.
1. Most men are afraid that they aren't going to "measure up". The average penis size for a man is 6.5" and most men have been measuring since they were old enough to know what they had down there in their pants. No matter how satisfied their woman is with their size, they still think it's not enough. A little bit of attention, and a lot of talking him up will go a long way. From time to time it wouldn't hurt you to accidentally gag on it a few times during oral sex as well so he feels like he is too much for you to handle. And in case you didn't know even if they are big, this is a huge turn on for a man. During sex if he's smaller it would help if you had tighter pc muscles by doing your kegal exercises so that everything is tightened up down there and he can feel you squeezing your pc muscles.
2. Performance anxiety. Most men are nervous that they aren't going to be able to last long enough to please their women. One solution for that, in one word: clitoris. If he focuses on giving you an orgasm before you even start sex then he will already have accomplished his goal. Who says that you have to orgasm just from sex? He needs to venture out of the known area of just the missionary sex that is supposed to bring the orgasm and learn how to make you orgasm without his penis.
3. Is she going to orgasm? Most men worry that they at the end of the race he will have finished and you will have been left behind. If this happens a lot there is nothing wrong with using a toy to finish the job. It's time for you to tell him that it's normal for a woman not to orgasm during sex as quickly as a man. We are high maintenance! Come on haven't they seen us shop?! Only 30% of American women can actually orgasm during penetrational sex, so the odds are against them already. Teach him to open his mind and again orgasm doesn't just have to happen when the penis is inside the vagina! For help in any of these areas please feel free to visit my website at http://www.bringhomethepassion.com |
